
I finally finished reading Rick and Marilyn Boyer's excellent book entitled,
Home Educating With Confidence. I don't know why it took me such a long time to finish when the book was so good.
Despite being written in the 90's, HEWC is a true gem. It's actually one of the first books I ever picked up on the subject of homeschooling. At the beginning of my walk with Yahveh [God], I became fully convinced that educating my own (future) children at home would be the only option. Hence why I am taking the time to read and explore the many teaching options and methods out there.
In their book, the Boyers take the time to address nearly every issue having to do with home educating. There's a chapter for help with getting started, another for dealing with discipline, and even several dedicated to dispelling the stubborn myth regarding socializing.
Oftentimes, the Boyers compared and contrasted the modern school system with the homeschooling one, sharing from their own personal experience. Having been educated in government schools myself, I can attest to what they said as being true. The negative aspects of peer-oriented social development are a sad result of having attended both a private and public school throughout my years. By placing children in age segregated groups, you create a society that only knows how to relate to those in their same age group. What few people realize is how limited those kids are in choosing their companions.
Proverbs 13:20 says, "...a companion of fools will suffer harm."
I could expand more on the benefits of family-oriented socialization versus peer-oriented, but for the sake of time and space, I'll stop. The reason I feel so passionately about this is because I see the results and consequences produced by over dependence on peers rather than family. In my family, this has resulted in each person having their own seperate life. Satan loves breaking up families, and I believe one of the ways he does this is through the schooling system that has become the norm these days, even among believers.
I really appreciate the emphasis on family unity expressed by the authors throughout their book. Home educating can only be successful when the husband and wife are on the same page. Both need to have a vision for expanding Yahveh's kingdom through the raising up of spiritually minded individuals with a love for learning.
And as I like to tell my parents, anyone can homeschool their children. All it takes is determination and Godly wisdom. In my case, all it took for this conviction to form was the belief that Yahveh equipped the parents to educate their child. No outside source is needed. Afer all, why would you want your child to be educated by an unbeliever with unScriptural philosophies? Why would you want your child surrounded by peer pressure and unnecessary competition? It just didn't make sense to me!
Using excuses for your child such as, "He needs to get a taste of the real world," or "He needs to stop depending on us [the parents] so much" simply does not cut it.
I mean, whose standard are you living by? Whose philosophy are you adhering to? There's a reason why Yahveh created the family. It is through this God-ordained establishment that all our needs can be met. Satan knows this and that is why he is out to destroy the family through lies that seek to ruin their unity and thus rid them of any positive influence they can have on our God-less society.
I realize I am getting a bit passionate here, but I get really frustrated when people just don't get it. Why I say "people," I really mean believers. Very few families homeschool nowadays, and the ones who do seem to believe it is necessary to involve their child in every social activity possible. It's like we as a culture have this twisted view of proper socialization. Then we wonder why seemingly good "church kids" get involved in drugs and pre-marital sex.
But to get back to my book review, I'd like to mention that the Boyers did not write their entire book on socialization ;) In fact, most of its subject matter deals with ways in which they educated their own children. Topics such as spiritual training and curriculum are thoroughly discussed. Then to finish it up, the Boyers touch a bit on the subject of college. I was pleasantly surprised to read that their thoughts were quite similar to mine. They reject the notion that college is a necessary element for a proper education, but they don't completely reject it as an option.
Overall, I enjoyed reading through the authors' thoughts and experiences. Being the parents of 12 blessings, I think it is safe to assume they know what they're talking about. Just the other day, I checked out their
website and found out that most of their kids are already married and have children of their own.
I look forward to reading more of the Boyers' books, having benefitted so much from this one.